With twenty-plus years experience when it comes to saving marriages, Lee Baucom, PhD., is an esteemed marriage counselor whose unconventional techniques and approaches have helped thousands of couples to regain their close-knit marriages.

In lieu of simply dealing with whatever actions are required to save a marriage, Dr. Baucom also helps couples to see what they should not do if they want their marriage to last.

Baucom maintains that his straightforward methods have worked to save thousands of problematic marriages since the beginning of his program.  His website (www.savethemarriage.com) contains video clip depictions of the origins of Baucom’s program and its content.

The information is both well-organized and helpful, and presented in a clear fashion that makes it easy to understand.  Dr. Baucom addresses the plethora of unqualified and unprofessional so-called marriage counselors that can be found widely online.  Baucom says that a great deal of the material provided by these ‘counselors’ is untested and unproven, and is not effective for those who are serious about saving their marriages.

Dr. Baucom is a member in good standing of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.  His ratio of success in saving marriages that are on the rocks is an astounding ninety percent, which is significantly higher than the industry average of around twenty percent.  Baucom credits his unique methodology and approach to his success.

When Baucom first began his now hugely successful marital counseling practice, he applied the same outmoded and ancient principles that he had learned during his formal training.  Realizing that these antiquated methods and principles no longer (or perhaps had never) worked well in modern society, he began to research and develop his own untraditional approach.  He watched as his success rate in saving marriage skyrocketed.

The low success rate of traditional methods of saving a marriage during marriage counseling can be attributed, according to Dr. Baucom, to the fact that most psychologist are not trained to specialize in marital therapy.  Adding this specialty to their practice later on and attempting to use general techniques to treat problems in a marriage just doesn’t work.  Baucom’s system does.

An important facet to Baucom’s approach to saving marriage is the revelation of the “Four Myths of a Successful Marriage”.  These myths include:

  • Communication is critical – Is this really a myth?
  • There is only one path to a successful marriage (he claims there are at least eight)
  • Time heals all (wounds)
  • You cannot save the marriage if your partner isn’t trying

Dr. Baucom believes that more marriages end due to neglect than from any other reason, and says that many partners often take the news of the other wanting a divorce as a shock because they didn’t know that there was even a problem.

When rating top priorities, most people always rank their marriage as being among the top four items in their lives.  Yet a limited number of people spend quality time trying to work on their marriages and their relationships with their spouses.  This neglect can be seen as indifference to the marriage itself, and the marriage becomes lodged on a slippery slope.  If people are faced with a problem in their careers, they often just change jobs. This same line of expedient thinking alongside society’s lessened respect for the institution of marriage is often a trigger for divorce.

Knowing which stage your marriage and your relationship with your spouse is in is a critical part of healing marital conflicts, according to Dr. Baucom.  The point that the marriage has reached in its breakdown is the biggest determinant in the treatment needed to save the marriage.

Dr. Baucom does not propose that he is a miracle worker, although his rate of success might suggest otherwise.  His website is rife with true stories of marriages saved and relationships healed.  Baucom closes by reiterating the fact that his unique approach to strengthening and saving marriages is not solely about marriage, but about the creation of a positive and nurturing relationship that couples have always dreamed of, living in a life together that is happy and fulfilling for both partners.


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